Here’s a portion of an email someone sent in to my podcast…
“I was with a man for 8 months, and after he didn’t get me anything for my birthday or see me my birthday weekend, I confronted him. Why did this clown text me that he had met someone new and didn’t want to ruin my week by breaking the news. I went to his house, cursed him out, but ended up having sex with him. For the past three weeks I’ve seen him twice to talk, but we ended up fucking each time. After reading your book, I now know it’s not about him or this new girlfriend. It’s about me. I’m sick to my stomach that a guy could date me for so long, not give me a title and commit to another woman under my nose. I’ve sunken so low G. My only flex is being able to fuck another girl’s so-called man, a man that told me in actions and in words that I was never good enough for him…”
Who’s to blame in that situation? A woman for allowing her time to be wasted for 8 months and then giving out slices of “please pick me” pussy…or do you blame the man that kept this woman in a placeholder position while he scouted for a better woman?
“She’s stupid for letting him do that to her” doesn’t take into account that so many women, young or old, college-educated or not, can be suckered in if a man’s game is tight. I can write all day about avoiding men like this, but 80% of you reading this won’t listen. You’ll think I’m exaggerating; you’ll think I’m not talking to a woman of your caliber, and that’s where you fuck up. This egotistical idea that no man would play mind games because you’re a trophy leaves your defenses down. Then, just like Ms. 8 Months A Basica, these guys humble the fuck out of you. Regardless, let’s turn away from women and focus on men who play these games and why.
THE MALE MIND FUCK
Let’s address male accountability. Too many of my brothers are still stuck in this loop of playing games with women’s emotions in an attempt to control, manipulate, and make them submit. Men aren’t trash, men aren’t evil, men are simply paranoid. “Get her before she gets me” is the name of the game because males are scared to death that a woman only wants to use him for attention or money, and as soon as he falls in love, she’s letting the next man slide into her mind and heart. I’ve sat in enough barbershops to hear that male advice is always, “don’t trust these bitches. They’ll always disappoint you.” The reaction to this warning is to become emotionally unavailable or to date multiple women, so you never rely on one. Thus, we have generations of men who date or enter relationships with a sneaky or selfish mindset. Male accountability is non-existent because men can always justify why they act the way they act and make themselves into the victim. There’s always something a woman did that drove him to hurt her feelings or make a mistake.
Male Logic: I didn’t waste your time. I was testing how we vibed. You started doing some weirdo shit, so I cooled on you and found someone more on my level.
Male Logic: I wasn’t only with you for sex. I really thought we had something real until you started catching attitudes and pressuring me about titles, so I fell back.
Male Logic: Yeah, I fooled around with that other girl, but we weren’t in a good space at the time. You would be dumb to walk away from what we got going on over me fucking a bitch that doesn’t matter.
See how easy it is to deflect? Nothing a man does is 100% wrong if you look at it from his perspective. The irony is that most women get gaslit into buying into male logic. He’s speaking so passionately and with such confidence, it doesn’t sound like bullshit or game, so you internalize what he’s saying. Your insecurities expand because once again you’re being triggered by the idea that you aren’t good enough to make a man happy. If this happens multiple times, then it changes how you interact with men. Victims of gaslighting always rarely spot the hustle. As a result, boundaries don’t get set, red flags are ignored, you bite your tongue and shrink your personality because you want to be his peace. Ha! This results in being domesticated into a basic, submissive, pick me.
Basic Female Logic: Let me allow this man to move at his own pace, mansplain to me why I’m wrong, and he’s right, and hopefully if I remain submissive and nonproblematic, he’ll see me as wifey material.
Basic women secretly love when toxic men put them in their place, make them out to be crazy, fill their eyes with tears, ignore them for days, then come back to bust that pussy open like nothing ever happened. Basicas see that as a man being “masculine,” but what it highlights is a lack of self-respect and a severe need for male validation. All these ratchets online yelling about “I need a man to apply pressure,” but can’t even get a bouquet, let alone a Birkin. What these low-vibrational women say they want isn’t what they settle for, and this is why men win. The first two weeks of being nice and gassing her head is followed by dogging her out because males know that a woman who thinks she just needs to “act right” and he’ll go back to being Mr. Perfect, isn’t going to go anywhere. Feed these birds hope, and they’ll love you for life, is the motto. For those men who recognize that half the women he meets will act like this have zero incentive to change. He’s going to talk to you reckless, shop around for new women, and come back into your life whenever he feels because he understands that you’re weak. No matter what I teach you, if you can’t understand how to spot these kinds of Dick Tactics, it’s pointless.
“G.L. Ho Tactics isn’t working for me,” because you’re dealing with a man who already sees what you’re doing because you’re Ho Tactics are sloppy and see-through, Basica. “G.L. I can’t Spartan Up with this man,” because you’re dealing with a guy who recognizes that you’re only confident for a few days, and then you’re back to being a typical he can mindfuck. The point being is that certain women can’t run Ho game or Spartan Up because they aren’t emotionally strong enough to stand up against a “masculine” take charge kind of man that charms you, fucks you, and gaslights you into doing what he wants.
Think about the permanent damage done by dating a manipulator. If your ex used to put you in your place and you tell a guy you’re dating how you were in a toxic relationship, but then label the new guy as “not as exciting as my ex” then what does that say about you? What does that tell these men? He’s boring because he doesn’t grip you up, curse at you when you don’t answer the phone, or do any of the aggressive stuff you claimed not to like but secretly makes you wet. Understand that this “I need a man who can check me but respect me” mixed messaging is why so many men hide their true selves. Instead of being real they put on the mask of hard, tough, and abrasive, because that attitude is a proven turn on.
Mr. Nice Guy: I work a good job, am respectful, and know how to date a woman, but I can’t get any attention. Yet all I see online are girls that wouldn’t give me a shot crying about being used by bums. Maybe I need to do what the users are doing. At least they get play.
Contrary to popular belief, the Dickticians I’m describing aren’t the norm. The world isn’t split into Players and Simps. In the middle, there are shades of grey. What I’m seeing these days is that those men who aren’t having success don’t want to learn how to be less awkward or showcase their personalities to get the girl. They want power and revenge. Typical men look up to the players. They thrive to do what rappers rap about and have multiple bad bitches lined up, and none of them stepping out of line. So how do they go from the cornball who doesn’t get a text back to DaBaby? They emulate the men who have mastered the art of mindfucking women.
How To Play With A Woman’s Heart
A friend sent me this video called “How To Get Her To Fall In Love” which you can watch below. To sum it up, this guy is trying to help men who aren’t that good with women land a top-shelf Game Changer by using mindfuck techniques. “Who would listen to this guy? That’s disgusting and stupid,” you may ask if you’re a woman who watches the video, but those familiar with Red Pill material understand that this is where a lot of men get their game from.
- Make her respect you by showing her you don’t need her.
- Make her experience mixed feelings.
- Always be willing to walk away.
These are his top 3 for men, and all three are easy to do. For example, Wayne is dating Jen. He pursues her with all kinds of energy, but never does he make it feel like she’s the only woman on his roster. Wayne says little slick shit about other women who want him. Wayne makes comments about the kind of woman that he needs to truly win him over. All of this is done to create jealousy and fear in the mind of Jen. At the same time, Wayne keeps reeling her in with positive treatment. He’s showing her what life as his girl could look like. He keeps talking about a relationship with her as though it’s going to happen. This creates a roller coaster of emotions. Jen is thinking, “He treats me better than the rest, but he’s saying things that are red flags. He tells me how much he wants me but then goes missing with no excuse. He’ll ignore my texts, then pop up and tell me we’re going out. Am I overthinking?”
Jen is getting mindfucked. She loves Wayne’s unpredictable nature but also wants to break Wayne down, so he’s more attentive and consistent. Jen tries to play that “two can play that game” shit on Wayne. What does Wayne do? He doesn’t give a fuck. He doesn’t react in the way Jen wants and proves that he is willing to risk losing her to another man or willing to walk away if she keeps bringing drama or questioning his behavior. In the end, Wayne breaks Jen down into this submissive, weak bitch who will now get in where she fits in because Wayne has succeeded in running the Push & Pull game.
When men who don’t have game or who haven’t been schooled on psychology come across the above video or any Red Pill philosophy, it sounds empowering. No more chasing women! Get them on your dick! Put her in check! I see the outcome of this method. Right now, I have a woman in my inbox who fell for something like this, and she’s crying about “help me get him back, I think I pushed him away.” Silly, Basica, you didn’t push him away. IT WAS ORCHESTRATED TO MAKE YOU CRAZY.
Ladies, please realize that the lack of accountability, the petty arguments, the disappearing acts, and the false promises aren’t normal relationship hurdles. These struggles could be that the man you’re chasing is watching these videos on how to mindfuck you, reading Reddit for tips, or is naturally built to manipulate women because he covets power over you, not a partnership.
Fellas, Stop Playing These Games!
“G.L., tell men to stop being like this!” Respectfully, what the fuck will that accomplish? Instead of making demands let’s cut to the root of the problem for men, and I hope every lady reading this will share this with a guy they know so it can be effective…
Fellas, I recognize that it is difficult to find a woman who will judge and respect you for who you are versus what you bring to the table. If you’re paycheck to paycheck, trying to make it to that next level of whatever your ultimate goal is, you hate the fact that women are judging you for where you are in life. You hate that your type will show interest then leave you on read because you don’t match up to her City Girls fantasy. You know who you are character-wise. You know you can have great conversations, teach her things, be there to listen, and pipe the soul out of that pussy. However, you won’t get a chance to show this side because the women you meet act as if they’re too good or give mixed signals once you start dating.
On the other side, if you’re a man with money or status, it doesn’t get any easier. Women throw a lot more attention at you when they find out who you are, what you do, what you have, etc. This then creates the problem of “does she want me or see me as a come up.” As I wrote initially, when guys give each other advice, it revolves around not placing trust in women. Therefore, the moment a girl starts to ask for money or make relationship demands in an entitled way, you think, “See, this is why I don’t put my energy into these bitches. They’re all the same.” Sure, there are Pick Me chicks who will be with you just to say they have someone, but no secure man wants a bottom of the barrel woman with low self-esteem. The alternative has become play the field until one of these women earns your trust by proving not to be like the rest. Tell them what they want to hear, fallback when they get too close, and keep your emotions light. What kind of life is that, bro?
It’s time to grow up. Just because you’ve run into a handful of women that turned out to be fool’s gold doesn’t mean you give up and become this asshole that plays mind games to make them bow down and be submissive. Do you really want to be with a woman who you don’t respect? Making a woman fear you isn’t the same as having her fall in love with you? These guys on YouTube don’t mean any harm, they’re trying to teach a philosophy that got them easy pussy and kept them from being hurt…and that’s the problem.
Love requires a willingness to open yourself up to heartbreak. If you aren’t willing to risk your feelings for her, then why are you dating? Women want men who aren’t afraid to expose who they are, who love hard and communicate their fears and anxieties. By trying to hack life with Pimp Game, you are only attracting low-vibrational women, damaged little girls, and Placeholders who will never complete you. The same way women are sick and tired of Bumble and Hinge or disappointed when they start texting with a person only for it to dry up, I know men feel the same way. All these women with pretty avatars but aren’t saying anything. All these women who seem great at first then start to act flakey. I get it. The frustration for women is to give up, not date. The frustration for men is to just get pussy, no feeling attached. Neither solution works!
Instead of listening to how to lie and manipulate a woman into giving you a shot, be yourself. Not the “yourself” that doesn’t get his DMs responded to, but yourself who isn’t wearing a mask or trying too hard to stand out. Stop trying to be who you’re not. Have something funny to say when you message women. Be interesting when getting to know her and showcase your true personality. Stop trying to be cool and mysterious. Stop talking about what you got or who you know, or what you drive. Stop being overly sexual when you’re just getting to know these chicks. Calm down and be confident in your own skin; stop cosplaying like you’re 21 Savage, you don’t need a gimmick to pull women. Shoot your shot, come up with creative date offers that she can’t refuse, and most importantly, put it all on the line and drop your guard, so she knows you’re being sincere and not just looking to slide between her legs. Not every woman will want you, but we’re men; when has rejection ever stopped us from holding our head high and going after something better?
Never give up, never give in, because THE ONE is out there. I meet so many great women and men, but I’m not a matchmaker. I can’t put you all together. You have to do the work. There are so many eligible women who aren’t shallow or deceitful; the key to attracting them into your universe is to be real, not an asshole. “But they don’t want real, they want blah blah blah,” kill that noise! Let go of that negativity about who wants what and focus on putting the best version of yourself out there!
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